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Working As A BDSM Webcam Model

BDSM is a fetish genre that is becoming practiced on webcam more often than it ever has, but what does BDSM actually mean? There are many definitions but the best suiting is an overlapping acronym, Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism. Bondage is the act of restraining your partner, discipline (generally involved with the bondage) is sexually arousing your partner through pain and asserting ones dominance. This can be achieved through various methods but the commonly used methods in the sex industry are paddling, spanking, whipping, hot wax use, gagging, and clamping. Dominance and Submission are pretty self explanatory, one person takes the dominant role while the other submits to them, for this purpose it is sexually. Sadism is achieving sexual gratification out of causing pain to others, while Masochism is deriving sexual gratification from being emotionally or physically “abused” or humiliated.

 

How To Achieve Dominance / Submission Over A Webcam

How does this tie into webcam work? It may appear to be hard to assert dominance over webcam, but with a little practice it’s actually quite easy and fun to do. Submission over webcam is obviously much easier to achieve but still just as great. In order to assert dominance over webcam, you have to keep your main components of webcam work in mind: visuals and words. Becoming powerful in your use of visuals and words will assist in making you appear more dominant.

For example; a cam girl who has a firm stance and does not appear to be nervous will be more “dominant looking” than a cam girl who is nervous and appears to not be confident. As far as words go, they are very important. Using terms to refer to yourself such as “queen” or “goddess” will in essence raise your station in the viewers mind to make you appear more powerful.

 

Doing Bondage / Self-Bondage Webcam Shows

Bondage over webcam is a little harder to achieve but it is achievable. Since we all don’t always have someone home to help untie us though, keep in mind any knot or bind you get yourself in should be one you can also free yourself from. The aspect of webcam work that makes bondage differ from real time sessions is that since you are tying yourself you are still in total control of what’s going on, but the key is to appear that you are not. Tying your arms in front of yourself to allow yourself a better range of mobility but also to continue appearing submissive can help greatly. It is very hard to keep a show going without your mobility. For those of you who are planning on roping your viewer up, please keep that in mind as well.

 

Doing Sadism / Masochism Webcam Shows

Sadism and Masochism over webcam can be very pleasing if properly executed. Typically during my webcam shows I am the sadist, and my viewer is the masochist. In order to serve my purpose, I generally have my viewer whip, spank, pinch, poke, punch, or slap themselves in various areas. What if your viewer isn’t actually hurting themselves, and how do you know? The key is communication, following up your instruction with a question. Unless they’re a very good actor (which seems pointless in the long run anyway, they are paying for this show, why half ass it?) they will generally be honest with their response and you can then chose to make it harder, easier, in a different spot, etc.

 

Words and Visuals Are Very Important!

The most important part in using BDSM in webcam work is remembering that it relies on words and visuals, keeping the show more “aesthetic” in nature and really relaying your feelings and emotions to your viewer will make it all the better for yourself and the viewer.

 

*This post written by me was originally published on Webcam Startup: “How to do BDSM Cam Work”

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