The Domme Directory: Online Guide for Offering Domination Cam Shows, Clips, and Phone Sex.
A massively popular type of camming, clip producing, and sexting has hit the indie adult market. Pretty much everyone knows what it is or has some minor experience with it if they’re sexually active outside of adult work, because you’ve probably been asked something along the lines of “are you more dominant or submissive?” “are you a top or bottom?” “WHO wears the pants?” If you know the answer to those questions, and the answer is along the lines of you being a dominant power top who wears the pants, there’s a fairly good chance that you could make some income providing online domination services.
Find your Brand of Domination
A lot of models find themselves wanting to step into the role of an online Domme but don’t know where to start, or think there are “qualifications” that must be met to call yourself a Domme. In reality, you will decide your own brand of Domination. Your brand of Domination can be structured to fit into your style of services, for example: a non-nude model can provide Domination through verbal humiliation, a nude model can do body worshipping shows, a fetish model can mix humiliation with any fetish they provide (some common ones are feet, pantyhose, spit, smoking, giantess, and vore.) Of course you don’t HAVE TO do it that way, but those are great ways to transition into providing it by overlapping it with services you already offer and you are used to providing.
A Key Part of Domination is Establishing Limits:
Since doing Domination online is lacking the physical aspects of real time sessions, you will have to learn how to communicate your wishes in a firm way to ensure that the submissive will follow your lead. A common practice in the community is giving “sub tasks” or “slaves tasks” which can vary from sending money (this is more FinDom which we will discuss later,) doing a humiliating task like writing something embarrassing on themselves, instruction them to cause themselves physical pain, or really anything that is within the boundary of the submissive parties limits.
Knowing your submissive’s limits may be harder if it is a first time client or you are producing a video that is meant for sale to the general public. My suggestion is for first time shows where you aren’t expecting them to come back, provide a less intense show and leave the burden on the submissive to request more severe treatment. You will be better off providing a less intense show and not risking losing the customer because you turn them off with something that is beyond their sexual interest in the show, rather than pushing the boundaries not knowing what they are. This dynamic changes if you have a customer who comes back repeatedly and becomes a “devoted slave” to you. There is a massive difference between a regular “submissive” and a devoted “slave.” Submissive customers will generally surf around cam or clip sites and not really fixate themselves onto one Dominant, instead they will “browse” and accept services from multiple models. Does this make them a bad submissive? Not necessarily because on cam and clip sites there is no expectation for these submissive customers to visit you and only you, but if in their browsing they then devote themselves to you this will create a better “slave” dynamic. A “slave” is more likely to visit you often, dedicate themselves to your rules and the things that you want, as well as want a greater relationship with you outside of sexual shows.
Once you’ve identified whether your client is a submissive who probably won’t be visiting you quite as often or if they’re a potential slave who wants to be loyal to you, you will most likely want to establish some limits. Limits for yourself as their Dominant, and limits for them as your slave. You will want to ask them for their limits which can be pushed (things they may not have interest in but would be willing to do if you’d want them to) and their hard limits (things you can NOT push, things they will never do or have any interest in.) A good way to vet out time wasters is to blacklist anyone who says “I have no limits.” If you don’t want to blacklist immediately, a fun response to that is “so you’ll send me $5,000 right now?” or “well, let’s get ready to chop off your genitals!” If their response is anything other than, “yes (insert your preferred title here)” then they HAVE limits.
Types of Domination
FemDom: “Regular” Domination – Anything that does not include attaching financial value to the service
FinDom: Financial Domination – Anything that involves attaching financial value to the service
The Top Three Aspects of Domination
You can mix these together, you can add things on to them, or you can take things away from them, but there very basic core of Domination will come down to 3 categories of submission.
Humilation: The sub/slave has come to terms with their inferiority, wants to be told they are inferior, desires to be humiliated to prove/confirm they are inferior. Most likely has a specific thing(s) that they believe makes them less powerful than you and desires you to emphasize how these things make them unworthy of equality, attention, or even love. Some common examples are: small penis humiliation, weight humiliation, height humiliation, career/workplace humiliation, fetish humiliation, performance humiliation (stamina, athleticism, or ability to complete things required of them,) general humiliation based on looks, humiliation based on intelligence, and many more.
Worship: The sub/slave wants to worship you, they want to shower you with compliments and they want to beg to watch/touch/satisfy you. They may also desire to worship or honor an “alpha partner,” they desire your happiness. Some examples include: cuckolding, ass worship, breast worship, any physical worship (height, weight, hair, stomach, eyes, lips, etc.) shoe/sock worship, leather/latex worship, prayer worship (treating you as their God,) manipulation and hypnotizing, and many more.
Pain: The sub/slave wants to cause pain to themselves either for your attention or at your request to satisfy you and display that their body is worthless or that you control them entirely so much so that they will cause pain/injury to themselves. Some examples include: CBT (cock and ball torture,) paddling, spanking, slapping, punching, gagging, pegging (this does not have to be painful, but encouraging stretching or rough sex can make it painful,) human ashtray, and many more.
This post originally written by me can also be found on Webcam Startup: “Getting Started as an Internet Domme (Camming and Clips)”